Active Listening is crucial in relationships, especially with your wife.
When talking to your wife, listening is more important than speaking.
You do not need to be the advice giver or the problem solver. They do not want that.
They want to be heard and just talk about how they feel, so you just need to listen and empathize with them.
Use your body language by showing your face and look at them in the eyes to show that you are listening.
When speaking to them, put away your phone or any distractions. Give them your undivided attention.
Paraphrase what they said to you or restate what they said, so they know you are really listening.
Feel free to ask tell me more or I am not sure what you mean, can you tell me more. This will allow them to express their feeling more and make them feel better and allow you to understand them better.
Communication in marriage is not about getting something, its about building your relationship together, which you do by speaking and listening to one another. People connect through conversation and understanding the other person.