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How do I get my teens to enjoy family night? We've been doing this since they were 4 and 5 yrs. old.

asked May 26, 2017
500 PointsSilver
Teens are going through puberty and handling a lot of first time social and/or romantic/emotional situations while they are also trying to find themselves amongst their peers.  Most teens are not completely honest with their parents (I know I wasn't)...  If you have a good relationship with your kids, a straightforward conversation about how they feel about spending time together can be eye-opening.  What don't they like about it?  What would they rather do?  It's tough for them to have to choose between a social activity with their friends and a family activity.

As a parent, being open to compromising and planning family events around your teen's preferences can also go a long way.  Are they into outdoor activities? Music? Cooking?  Allow them to participate in the planning as a way to get to know them better.  Allowing them to participate regularly but less often can also be a game changer.  Give them the option to choose how many times per month it happens.  Maybe it will feel less like something they have to do and more like something they want to do.  Also, don't call it family night.
Jun 19, 2017
+3 Votes
8660 PointsGold
It's all about morphing to their likes and needs.

When I used to nanny, I would put on cooking shows. This was to get the kids interested in eating more of a variety of things (at the parent's request) but it turned into something even more spectacular.

I didn't put on just any cooking show, I put on Cutthroat Kitchen and Chopped, which are competition shows. This really appealed to them because they were obsessed with sports and competition.

One day, I said "Hey, do you want to play Cutthroat Kitchen" and they were super into it.

We ended up doing it and having the parents be the judges. This could be a great idea for you to make something fun for them. Kids love competition, especially if they win and get rewarded for it. (You could make them exempt from chores or something like that as a reward).

Let me know what you think and if you want o brainstorm ideas, please don't hesitate to send me a message here on ChatOwl.
Jul 26, 2017
+1 Vote