When things in a relationship aren’t going as you want, it can feel like you are two people stuck out on an island. For some people, admitting that they are having marital problems feels like confessing defeat. But there is not a single couple out there who have not gone through a rough patch. The key to making it out of the valley to find the peak is to get the help of a professional who can act as a mediator.
When things get too heated, or resentment runs too high, most couples stop listening to what the other is saying and can project their own assumptions onto their partner. A marriage counselor can help to break down the communication gap so that you can get to the heart of the issues in your relationship and tackle them effectively.
Worried About What People Will Say?
Letting people into your relationship or going to counseling can sometimes feel like you are opening your problems up to the world. But if these 15 celebrities can attend counseling, and put themselves out there for everyone to know things aren’t going so fantastic, you can too. In fact, you probably had no idea that they sought help, nor will anyone know about your troubles unless you choose to include them. These celebrities got the help they needed and are now stronger than ever!
1. Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard
Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are a rarity in Hollywood. Their relationship has been going strong for nearly a decade. The reason that they continue to find success, even in the spotlight, is that they get the help they need to facilitate good communication when things start to break down. Periodically, therapy, according to Kristen, is the key to moral evaluation when their relationship gets a bit off course.
2. David Burtka and Neil Patrick Harris
This high-profile couple has been an example to both the gay and straight community for over 13 years. They believe that having someone mediate the hard times allows them to strip away the emotion and get down to what is really going on, and what needs to be fixed. With a mediator, it is much easier to hear what is being said, rather than what they think they hear.
3. Robin Dearden and Bryan Cranston
Bryan Cranston knows that when things are “Breaking Bad” a counselor is the answer. Robin and Bryan both have no qualms about telling the world that they see a counselor together and individually to work through the rough times. And if one doesn’t want to go, they have made an agreement that there is no saying “No”. If one feels the need; they both hop on board.
4. Fergie and Josh Duhamel
The problems of this awesome twosome are no secret to their adoring fans. How do they rein things in? The first agreement made is that they never spend more than two weeks without being together. And the second, and most important, is seeking therapy when necessary. Josh is not ashamed to admit when he needs a little extra help navigating coupledom.
5. DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good
Even before this couple said “I do,” they sought help to work through their unresolved issues. Meagan and DeVon believe that getting married is sort of like buying a home; you have to do your research first and make sure that you can commit to buying regardless of what hurdles might come your way. They still seek therapy regularly to keep their investment alive.
6. Carey Hart and Pink
Pink and Carey Heart began as the “bad boy” couple due to their tumultuous relationship and their individual lifestyles. But when they got back together for good, they decided that they wouldn’t part again. It took a lot of counseling to learn to fight nice and reverse the destructive behaviors that they developed when they were a younger couple. But the good news is that they are still together and happier than ever thanks to the help of therapists. They continue to see a counselor as maintenance instead of waiting until there is a problem.
7. Jillian Dempsey and Patrick Dempsey
It is difficult not to be jealous when your mate is one of the biggest heartthrobs in Hollywood, but Jillian and Patrick have worked through their problems and reconciled. When they split back in May of 2016, neither was willing to give up. Thanks to a whole lot of time on the couch, they are happy to report that they’ve no intentions of ever letting go!
8. Jay Cutler and Kristin Cavallari
Married just over four years, Jay and Kristin have felt the pressure of being on the ballfield and in the public eye. They might look like a perfect couple from the outside, but Kristin maintains that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. And until two people can accept the imperfectness in one another, there will not be harmony. They both confess to seeking therapy both separately and together and believe that it is the ability to be real and productively talk to each other, that has kept their marriage forging toward the five-year mark.
9. Hank Baskett and Kendra Wilkinson
Kendra and Hank not only sing the praises of couple’s therapy, they taped it to prove that it was a valuable tool. Kendra, no stranger to the reality camera, decided that to get over their cheating scandal, they had to come clean to one another and their public. They have no shame in hashing it out for the world to see. And the public appreciates that they will air their dirty laundry for everyone else to feel alright about the problems in their own relationship. In a way, their public therapy sessions make everyone feel “real”.
10. Beyonce and Jay Z
One of the most powerful couples in Hollywood has problems just like everyone else. Jay Z admitted to engaging in online marriage counseling when touring on their “On The Run” world tour when things got super stressful. It is their ability to communicate that got them this far openly. Hopefully, it will bring them peace for the long-term. After all, being away from one another is difficult, being stuck on a tour day in and out with each other, can be more problematic!
11. Benji Madden and Cameron Diaz
Cameron Diaz, who is known as a single and liking it star, decided to seek therapy with Benji Madden before saying “I do” when there was a struggle over the prenup. Money problems are never easy, not before marriage or after. So the couple decided to preemptively get the help they needed to overcome one of the major three reasons why couples divorce, finances. They are now managing money together, and happily, to boot.
12. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith
After 20 years in the spotlight and being the couple to both love and hate, Will and Jada decided to bring in a professional to save their marriage when it was on the rocks. When they finally reached a nearly public breaking point, they realized that their problems were bigger than they could ignore. Will admits that they should have sought counseling in the past, but were fearful of what the public would think. He now knows that it doesn’t matter. Everyone has relationship problems. The strong ones are the ones that face it head on and do what it takes. And there is no shame in fighting for something that matters.
13. Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling
Tori Spelling has been in the public eye for as long as she has been able to crawl. So her life has been pretty much an open book. When Dean and Tori started having problems, they realized that their public banter couldn’t possibly be as humiliating as seeking the help of a professional. And in 2014, they made their marital problems known as well as their intent to fix them. They were encouraged by their therapist to write letters to one another explaining their feelings. Dean and Tori both believe that several tactics, like writing down their emotions, saved them from ruin.
14. Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe
Not everyone seeks therapy in time to save their marriage. And some people even publicly announce they wish they had put forth the effort. Years after Reese and Ryan divorced, Ryan still has regrets about not trying everything to keep their marriage together. He maintains that it takes hard work to keep things together and that he regrets being lazy and letting it all slip by. Even celebrities regret not trying everything to make amends.
15. Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick
One of the most intense relationships in Hollywood laid out for everyone to see is the tumultuous one between Scott and Kourtney. From the outside, it is obvious for most to see their many problems, but conquering demons sometimes takes more than just a therapist. Although they admit to seeking help, they seem at times to be helpless. After all, couples therapy can only work if two people are strong and healthy, individually. No amount of couples work can overcome addiction and other destructive behaviors unless you choose to bid them farewell!
It doesn’t matter how much success you obtain or how big your bank account is. When you have marital problems, it equalizes everyone. Couples therapy is an excellent tool to invite an interpreter in so that you can hear what your partner is saying instead of what you think they are. If you are worried about the public stigma of admitting you need help in your marriage, take courage from these fifteen celebrities who waved the white flag and got the help they needed. Some are still together, some are not, and some are sorry that they never gave it enough effort to try counseling. Which one do you want to be? Before you throw in the towel, think about it long and hard, because you might not get a second chance to save something once it is lost.