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How can I ever feel good enough when I'm constantly surrounded by people better than me?

asked Aug 21, 2017
15520 PointsGold
You need to stop comparing yourself with other people and compare yourself to you. Other people have nothing to do with you. People have strengths that you may be weak in and you have a strengths that others are weak in. Work on your own strengths and weaknesses. Build yourself up. Be better than you were last year and the year before that.

You will never feel good about yourself if you keep comparing yourself to others or you focus on your flaws. You are not surrounded by better people, you just interpret that they are better than you. Do not worry about others and see the strengths you have. Be the best that you can be.
Aug 21, 2017
+4 Votes
720 PointsSilver
Well, the simple answer to your questions is you can't.
It's like saying why does everything bad happen to me? I doesn't; not really.
Oh, this sounds mean doesn't it?  The truth is NO one is better than you. You just think they are.  Maybe someone around you can do a similar job faster than you or they can get more clients than you. It may look like they "have it all together".  They may even tell you they do.
Look a little closer. No not at them, at yourself.  What make all those people surrounding you seem  "better' than you? "   Is it because they have something you want? Ex. confidence,education, experience.
What do you have that they don't? Ex. kindness, compassion, the ability to listen?
What does "good enough mean"to you? Once you understand the POWER of  how you see yourself,
you can begin to  choose how you see the people who surround you. You are a unique, capable, and complete human being. It is up to you to decide how you see yourself. Life Coaching can help in so many ways but again it is completely your choice in how you move forward.
Aug 21, 2017
+1 Vote
270 PointsSilver
Feeling good enough and being good enough are two very different things.

You ARE good enough, simply because you were born. Every human being has worth. You are worthy simply by existing. There is nothing you need to DO to earn worthiness, love, acceptance, and belonging. Those things are you birthright.

Now, if you don't FEEL loved, a sense of belonging, worthwhile, or worthy that is a different story.

The most simple (but def not the easiest) advice I can give is: Do Hard Things and Give Back.

Give to others what you seek for yourself. Love people unconditionally.. tell them you love them, serve them in any way you can, build others up every chance you get. Smile more, hug more, donate your time and energy to worthwhile causes. People involved in worthy causes FEEL worthy.

Do hard things...practice radical self acceptance, say daily affirmations, focus on a SMALL goal and do whatever it takes to achieve it, say no more, say yes more, be honest with yourself and others. People that do hard things believe they are capable of doing hard things.

Over time these things small things add up. You will start to see the value in yourself. Others will start to see the value in you and reflect it back.

Hope that helps give you hope.
Sep 12, 2017
+1 Vote