I understand how it can feel that your upbringing is the reason you are the way you are. However, ultimately, your upbringing actually isn’t the root of your being as you are. In this life you might have learned from the people who raised you and from your experiences growing up, but your experiences didn’t begin in this life. I could explain this further, and you can contact me to understand this further, but the important thing in changing in this life is merely to recognize that at every moment, you are responsible for your experience—not anyone or anything else.
The world merely mirrors you. The people around you and the circumstances of life treat you as you have been treating yourself. If you change the way you are treating yourself, the world will change how it treats you, just as a mirror shows the changes in you by necessity, for it is merely showing you a reflection of you.
If you blame your upbringing, your parents, or anyone or anything, including even yourself, for you being as you are or for things being as they are in your life, you will keep getting reasons to blame, and your life will not change in a direction you want it to change.
The only way to change is to acknowledge, without blame, that you are responsible for the experiences you have been having, and that you can therefore change them. And you can do this by changing what you choose to welcome into your experience with your attention and energy and how you treat yourself. Do you make yourself feel good with where you choose to focus the attention of your thoughts and actions, or do you make yourself feel bad with your focus of attention and energy? Acknowledge and apologize to yourself for where you have made yourself feel bad, and redirect your attention to what makes you feel good.
In order to understand this further and really put it into action effectively to change yourself and your life, regardless of what has been before now, contact me and we’ll get started shaping the version of you and your life that you truly want to experience.