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I’m always there for others, but when I’ve needed them there for me, they haven’t been. How can I change this?

asked Jan 19, 2017
16060 PointsGold
I understand what you’re going through here.  It doesn’t seem to make any sense and it feels totally wrong when you do everything you can for others and they don’t return the favor when you need them.

The key to understanding this is that people don’t treat you the way you treat them; they treat you the way you treat yourself.  When you’re going out of your way to be there for others, you neglect yourself in the process.  And as long as you aren’t there for yourself, no one else will be either.

So the solution here is to stop putting others before yourself and to only help out when it feels good and right for you to do so.  Value and take care of and listen to yourself in the process of being there for others.  If you are there for yourself in this way, only doing what feels good and right for you, then others will be there for you, too.

To understand this better and put it into action, contact me for a free session.  We’ll go over how you can really be there for yourself in the way you want others to be and make it so that when others treat you the way you treat yourself, you’re actually getting the results you want.
Jan 19, 2017
+6 Votes
2370 PointsGold
If you find you are always there for others and they don't seem to be there for you, then your life is out of balance. They are responding to the energy you are giving out. It is helpful to look at why you have created this pattern for yourself so you can change it. If you are there for others with expectation of a return on some level, you are really there for yourself. If you are always giving without any regard for yourself, you have lost some of your self worth and sense of value. It is important to balance giving and receiving and to consider your own needs too. If you would like to understand where your self worth is lacking and how to restore it by creating a more balanced energetic template in this moment, that will support a more balanced and happier life experience, please contact for an appointment. As an energetic life coach, I am happy to help.
Jan 20, 2017
+1 Vote