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What can I do to get my partner to listen to me?

asked Jan 25, 2017
16060 PointsGold
I’m sorry to hear that your partner hasn’t been listening to you.  It definitely doesn’t feel good when a partner isn’t listening.

You can ensure you get different results in the future, because ultimately your experience begins with you, and it can therefore be changed by you.

Your partner is just reflecting back at you how you’ve been treating yourself and making yourself feel.  So if you want your partner to listen to you, ask yourself how you haven’t been listening to yourself, apologize to yourself for not listening, and start listening to yourself.

Perhaps you haven’t been listening to yourself about your job, or your health, or your friendships, or your family, or your living situation, or your romantic relationship, itself, or perhaps something else or several of these areas of your life.  Wherever you haven’t been listening to yourself, listen.  Once you do, your partner will listen to you, too.

If you’d like help learning how to listen to yourself in a way that results in your partner listening to you, too, contact me for a free session now and we’ll get started on changing your experience right away.
Jan 28, 2017
+2 Votes
6510 PointsGold
That’s a great question, and I'm sorry you have not felt listened to up until now. What you’re seeing with your partner is only a reflection of what is going on internally within you. When you find that someone is not listening to what you are saying, the first step is to recognize it is about you. The next stage would be to ask yourself, “How have I not been listening to myself?” Also, ask yourself, “In what specific area have I not been listening to myself? It could be in your career, a relationship, a living situation, your health, or somewhere else. You can only get someone to listen to you when you are listening to yourself and this is done by hearing the messages that your internal guidance system is trying to get through to you.

Quick steps to get someone to listen to you:

1. Acknowledge that you have not been listening to yourself up until now. Give yourself a sincere apology and, after this, focus on how you would like to be listening to yourself going forward in your relationship with yourself.

2. Start listening to yourself and facing the messages and responding to yourself.

3. When your thoughts, feelings, instincts and desires feel that you have heard their messages, you will have a reflection in the world around you where you feel heard.

Contact me to help you learn how to listen to yourself in the most efficient and effective way that will improve and change all the relationships in your life. I will help you enter into a path of clear listening in your life!
Jan 30, 2017
+1 Vote
2780 PointsGold
Instead of thinking that your partner needs to listen to you, try to shift your point of view into one of listening to your partner... REALLY listening.

Understanding that external circumstances and superstitious thinking are not the true source of your well-being, is central to a loving relationship.  This is true in your relationship with others, as well as the single most important relationship in your life... the relationship you have with your self.

So what does that mean?

 If you believe that external circumstances or the random behaviors of others is what creates your happiness or your misery (you make me happy or you make me sad),  then the relationship will be filled with misunderstanding, co-dependency, and hurt.  The realization that your experience of life comes directly from your OWN feelings, changes everything about how you view the world and your experience of life.

As you develop this new understanding of how life works, your relationships can flourish with deep feelings of love that are free of blame, fault-finding, and the superstitious notion that external circumstances are in control of your feelings and happiness.
Jan 25, 2017
0 Votes