That is a fantastic question! I completely hear where you are coming from. Most reactions are so ingrained that you do not know how to react any differently. The same reaction patterns have been playing out for probably your entire life.
The way that you react to someone is how that person is reacting to him/herself in his/her relationship with his/her thoughts, feelings, instincts and desires. But, the key here is to start becoming aware of how you are reacting to yourself.
Firstly, I would like you to recognize that the world around you is a reflection of the communication that we have with ourselves. So, next time something comes up in your life, step back for a moment and ask yourself, “How did that make me feel? Would I like to be speaking to myself this way?” Here is where real change can occur, and then you see different responses in the world around you.
It is so important to be present to be aware of how you are reacting. Ideally, it is best to get you to a stage where you hear the message but are so aware that you choose how to react and what to say.
If you would like help learning how to become aware of your reactions in your life, contact me to get you on the path of getting the results that you would like to be getting in your life.