I’m sorry you’ve been feeling this way. The first step in changing this and getting yourself feeling free is to recognize the ultimate cause of your feeling trapped and controlled. Ultimately, the people and the world outside you are merely supporting you in feeling the way you have already been making yourself feel. So the question is how you’ve been making yourself feel trapped and controlled.
When we focus on what we don’t like and don’t want and then tell ourselves that we “have to” “need to” or “should” do things in order to avoid experiencing what we’re focusing on, we make ourselves feel trapped and controlled.
So if you want to feel free and in control, the key is to focus on what you do like and do want and therefore just naturally going there and welcoming this into your experience—no force or control necessary. When you are simply guiding and no longer controlling, you don’t trap yourself in a situation where you’re fighting against going where you’re naturally going because of where you’re looking.
When riding the bicycle of life, we ought to acknowledge the poles and decide where we want to go instead and then look there instead. If we focus on the poles and try to avoid them, we will feel trapped and controlled. But if we focus on the open fields and naturally steer there, we will feel free.
If you’d like help creating a life of freedom, where you feel entirely in control of your experience, contact me for a free session now and we’ll free you from your own self-imposed confines and the reflections of this in your life.