This is a powerful question and one that most people have struggled with. With my experience of over 11,000 hours in the classroom, training over 7,000 professionals. I have been asked this question many times. I will draw from my experience as an insurance agent. I experienced working with many different cultures. I have learned that the one person that most people are concerned with is themselves. Many times when we ask the question, " What do they think of me?". Often times we are the only ones thinking of that question because the other person is thinking about themselves. I have learned over many years of sales, teaching, and coaching people that there are 3 types of responses.
First, There will be people that WILL NOT like you!
This is a reality. As hard as it may be to swallow, it is true. The person has made a decision not to like you. There is nothing we can do to change it. This is 10% of the people we will encounter.
Second, There will be people that WILL like you!
This is easier to swallow. We like this! These people will always buy from you, they will always cooperate with you, and will be your "friend". They may even "drive you crazy", but they will like you. This is also 10% of the people we encounter.
Third, There will be people that are NOT THINKING about you at all!
These people are not thinking about you. They are thinking about themselves and how you will impact them. This is 80% of the people we encounter. These people are asking the question " How will you impact their lives?" This is your opportunity to show them how much you care. They are interested in what you will do for them. This is your opportunity to show them.
There will be some people who may not like you based on culture, gender, or age. They are the 10%. These people, you can move on because there are many people who are out there asking for you. I use a motto that says"
SOME WILL, SOME WON"T, SO WHAT, NEXT!
Help the people who see your value, who know they have a need, and are willing to invest in their futures. If you would like to learn more about how to impact more people, lets have a conversation! We help people every day maximize their influence.