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How do I maintain hope and keep going even when things seem hopeless?

asked Jan 9, 2017
16060 PointsGold
How do you maintain hope and keep going when things seem hopeless?  When you feel like you’ve tried everything and like you’ve exhausted all your options—in regard to finding a job, succeeding in your business, making money, finding a relationship, making a relationship work, or anything else, or simply life, itself—and nothing has worked to get you where you want to go, how do you keep going on and continuing to try?

Here are 5 powerful tips to help you maintain hope and keep going:

Tip #1:
Focus on the good things, the steps that you take forward, and the progress you make, however small they seem, rather than the seemingly bad things or how far you still have to go.  And allow yourself to feel gratitude and appreciation for these steps forward.  Say thank you to yourself for taking these steps, and for any positive experiences you have brought into your life as a result of these.

Tip #2:
Focus on what you have direct control over, and not on what you don’t have direct control over.  Measure your progress by the actions you take, and not by the results you get.

Tip #3:
Step into what you would really like to feel, and focus on these positive feelings rather than on any negative feelings you’ve experienced up to now.  Imagine what it would feel like to succeed, to have purpose and meaning and clear direction in your life.  Get as clear as you can about what you imagine you would feel if you accomplished whatever you want to accomplish.  Let these positive feelings be your ultimate goal, rather than any physical result or thing, and let these positive feelings guide your actions, rather than any negative ones.

Tip #4:
Acknowledge these negative feelings as being those of your internal guidance in reaction to how you’ve treated it and made it feel.  In light of this, respond to them rather than identifying with them.  When you can step out of them and respond to them, you can redirect them to positive feelings rather than fighting against them or trying to ignore them, which would only lead them to keep coming up to fight against or ignore.

Tip #5:
Take some time just to breathe and to focus on your breathing.  This will help you to step out of identification with your negative feelings and to let them pass, and therefore to recognize them as fleeting rather than permanent.  No matter how permanent they may seem, they will always pass if you allow them to by letting them speak up to you, acknowledging them, and then redirecting them rather than continuing to feed them with your attention and energy.

Over many years of guiding others, I’ve helped many people find hope when things seemed hopeless, and ultimately create purpose and meaning and continue onward to success and fulfillment, using my Life Guidance System.  If you’d like help identifying reasons to continue and creating purpose to motivate and guide you, contact me for a Free 30-Minute Purpose And Fulfillment Now Session, in which you’ll:

* Get completely clear about what you truly want in your life.

* Become aware of exactly what actually has been holding you back from getting everything you want up until now.

* Leave the session re-energized and inspired, with a renewed sense of meaning and purpose, and with clarity about the next steps you can take, beginning now, to get everything you want in your life, along with the motivation to take them.

Ready for a life of purpose, meaning, and a sense of real accomplishment and fulfillment?  Contact me now and let’s get started!
Jan 9, 2017
+5 Votes
2780 PointsGold
Acceptance of one's present situation can lead to great insight and direction. It is when we accept the present moment for what it is and not how we would like for it to be, that we can act as the moment dictates, without reacting. Much of our anxiety in life comes from wishing that the present was different than it already is. Situations are what they are and no amount of wishful thinking can change the past which is now merely a memory, or alter the present moment for what it is.

Where we CAN direct our energy is in accepting the current moment and whatever situation with which we are faced, as if we had chosen it. This objectivity keeps our mind at ease and allows our innate guidance to surface, letting us know how we can work through the situation to our benefit. Reacting to circumstances is very turbulent and creates unhappiness and anger with attendant anxiety. In contrast, if we calmly and objectively assess any given situation, this prevents a physical stress response, allowing us to more rationally choose the best action at that moment, then the next and the next. Reaction is paralyzing, while action is liberating. It is not just our actions that matter, it is the motivation and thoughts behind those actions that matters most to our inner well-being.

It is important to understand that acceptance does not mean resignation.

Accepting a moment for what it is does not mean that we are complicit with it or cannot do something about it. We do not have to resign ourselves to feeling victimized by horrible events or experiences in our lives. If we accept the situation for what it is, we will have all the resilience and power we need from within to weather whatever may come, with the guidance we need at that moment, if we are not overcome by fighting a battle to change what is, that we cannot possibly win. Using that energy to constructively work through whatever challenge exists, will get us through it and keep our inner self intact. We are victors instead of victims when we choose to accept, then work through whatever life events have challenged us.

Each of us is far greater than any circumstances that surround us. There is tremendous power in remaining in the present moment and working with it, instead of against it. The present is all we really have and where the magic of our lives begins and ends.  It IS our life.
Jan 25, 2017
+2 Votes
4710 PointsGold
Hi. Wow, this is a tough one. We all only really have ourselves so we have to learn how to love and care for ourselves. People are not guaranteed to stay in our lives and this is hard, but there is always a way to get out and see new things, meet new faces, etc.
Jul 27, 2017
+1 Vote