If you are having trouble making a decision, you are probably trying to do it from where you are looking forward. You are trying to figure out the best direction to take when you don’t even know where you want to go yet.
You have your own internal GPS, however. So if you would like to make a decision, start with identifying your destination—where you want to end up. Recognize that where you ultimately want to end up is not any specific physical place or with any specific person or in any specific circumstances or having any specific physical thing. This is part of the directions and will be clarified by your GPS once you have a clear destination. Where you ultimately want to end up is an experience—what you imagine you would be thinking and feeling if you were in this place or with this person or in these circumstances or with this thing.
If you had the experience, you’d have what you want. If you’re happy, you’d be happy. It is not necessarily true, however, that if you were with this particular person you’d be happy. If you feel secure, you’d feel secure. It is not necessarily true, however, that if you had a certain income, you’d feel secure.
Where you want to end up is an experience. So start with the thoughts and feelings you’d like to be experiencing at some future time after this decision has already been made, and then trace backward. How would you feel if you did this now? How would you feel if you did that now? If it feels good, go with it. If it feels bad, don’t do it. This is how you make a decision.
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