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How can I make a decision?

asked Mar 11, 2017
16060 PointsGold
If you are having trouble making a decision, you are probably trying to do it from where you are looking forward.  You are trying to figure out the best direction to take when you don’t even know where you want to go yet.

You have your own internal GPS, however.  So if you would like to make a decision, start with identifying your destination—where you want to end up.  Recognize that where you ultimately want to end up is not any specific physical place or with any specific person or in any specific circumstances or having any specific physical thing.  This is part of the directions and will be clarified by your GPS once you have a clear destination.  Where you ultimately want to end up is an experience—what you imagine you would be thinking and feeling if you were in this place or with this person or in these circumstances or with this thing.  

If you had the experience, you’d have what you want.  If you’re happy, you’d be happy.  It is not necessarily true, however, that if you were with this particular person you’d be happy.  If you feel secure, you’d feel secure.  It is not necessarily true, however, that if you had a certain income, you’d feel secure.

Where you want to end up is an experience.  So start with the thoughts and feelings  you’d like to be experiencing at some future time after this decision has already been made, and then trace backward.  How would you feel if you did this now?  How would you feel if you did that now?  If it feels good, go with it.  If it feels bad, don’t do it.  This is how you make a decision.

If you’d like help making a decision, contact me for a free session now and I’ll help you make any decision you’ve had difficulty making up to now and provide you with the tools you need to make great decisions for yourself easily and confidently going forward.
Mar 11, 2017
+4 Votes
15520 PointsGold
Many people have a tough time making decisions and you are not alone.

When trying to make a decision there are a few things you can do.

Make a pros and cons list. This is an intellectual exercise. Find out all the benefits of making a decision and all the possible reason why it may not be the best decision. See which decision has more pros than cons.

What do you feel in your heart? This is a more emotional exercise. Which do you feel you gravitate more towards? Close your eyes, which decision is the first to come to mind? Whichever you choose, is more inline with your intuition.

Ask someone for their opinion. Getting an outside opinion can be more objective. This can go hand and hand with the pro and con exercise. Ask one or two other people and see what they think you should do and why.
Mar 14, 2017
+2 Votes