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How can I overcome my fear of getting close to someone?

asked Mar 29, 2017
16060 PointsGold
I hear this fear.  Fortunately, you can overcome this fear.  The first step in doing this is to recognize that what you experience with other people is a reflection of what you have made yourself experience.

In other words, if you are afraid of getting close to someone, this means that your own internal guidance is afraid of getting close to you.  

You can find out why by asking yourself what you’re afraid of in getting close to someone.  Perhaps you’re afraid of being hurt in some way—maybe of getting close and then losing the person somehow.  If this is the case, this means that your own internal partner in the creation of your life is afraid of getting close to you because whenever it has gotten close to you before, it has lost you.  You stopped listening to what felt right for you and started putting someone or something else first, or for some other reason stopped being there for yourself.

So to address this fear, you want to acknowledge that you realize that you have made your own internal guidance afraid of getting close to you and that you’re sorry.  And let your internal GPS know that you’d like to stay with it this time.

And, of course, actually do your best to stay with your internal guidance this time—to continue to listen to what feels right for you no matter who or what else is in the picture.

This is how you overcome the fear of getting close to someone; this is how you address it at the core of what it truly is—the fear your internal guidance has felt about getting close to you because of how you have treated it before.

If you’d like help overcoming your fear, contact me for a free session now and we’ll address everything that needs to be addressed for your fear to disappear and for you to feel safe, comfortable, and confident when it comes to getting close to someone.
Mar 29, 2017
+4 Votes