The first step in resolving this is to recognize that however you feel about anything is how your own internal guidance feels about you. In other words, your own internal GPS really wants a deep and meaningful relationship with you, but it is afraid of being trapped in a relationship with you.
Why would your own internal guidance be afraid of being trapped in a relationship with you? You can answer this by asking what you’re actually afraid about when it comes to being trapped in a relationship. Perhaps you’re afraid of losing control over your own life, of being controlled, of having your options limited, etc.
Whatever you’re afraid of, turn around and respond to your internal GPS, for it is afraid of this in its relationship with you. For example, it might be afraid that a relationship with you means losing its own independence and freedom and being forced into situations it doesn’t want to be in (if this is what you’re afraid of in a relationship with another person).
And whatever your internal GPS is afraid of, this fear is based on its past experiences with you. So apologize for treating it in less-than-ideal ways and making it feel these things, and let it know how you’d like to make it feel instead going forward. For example, you might say to yourself, “I’d really like to make you feel that you can be free with me, that you can be yourself, that you can continue to take care of yourself when we’re together and even that I support you in taking care of yourself and doing what’s good for you.”
Imagine what it would be like if in a few months or a year or whenever, you’re in a deep and meaningful relationship and it actually feels good in every way. You feel free to be yourself and to do what’s good for you and you feel supported in this. What would that be like?
Once you’ve stepped into that positive-feeling place, do whatever feels good and right from there, and you’ll be showing your internal GPS that you actually mean what you’re saying—that it can just be itself and be free and be supported in this, as you listen to and act on exactly what it says with acceptance and appreciation.
If you’d like help building the kind of relationship with yourself that allows you to believe that you can have the kind of relationship you want with someone else, so you can actually get this, contact me for a free session now and we’ll get you experiencing everything you truly want.