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Should I stay in this relationship or should I leave? How can I know what's best?

asked Jan 10, 2017
16060 PointsGold
How do you know if you should stay in a relationship or leave it?  This is one of the most difficult questions to answer.  We stay because we hope things will get better, or because they really could get better.  We stay because we don’t believe we can find something better, or because we actually have something really good.  We stay for the sake of the other person, or for ourselves.  How do you know for sure whether to stay or go?

Fortunately, with the right tools, you can determine which is best.  And even better, with those tools, you can act on the right decision with confidence and clarity.

5 tools to equip you with your decision to stay or leave your relationship

If you continue to have the same arguments with your partner and nothing gets resolved or the arguments are progressing in the wrong direction, then it’s probably time to leave your relationship. On the other hand, if both of you are able to learn from arguments, you have an opportunity to grow closer and feel closer to each other.

If everything else in your life is improving—your career, your friendships, your relationships with family members, etc.—but your relationship with your partner is not improving despite your efforts, then it’s probably time to leave your relationship.  If, as other things in your life improve, your relationship with your partner improves, too, keep working on improving the other areas of your life and see what impact this has on your relationship because you’re currently in the right place.

If you don’t feel good when you’re with your partner, and you think, “if things changed, or if your partner changed, things would get better” in the future, it’s probably time to leave your relationship.  If you feel good most of the time you’re with him/her, and there’s something good there for you now that’s not based on potential future good, then you’re in the right place at this time.

If staying in your relationship makes you feel like a lesser version of yourself, then it’s probably time to leave.  If staying in your relationship makes you a better version of yourself, then you’re in the right place at this time.

Imagine feeling what you really want to feel in a relationship in a couple of years.  Imagine feeling connected, understood, loved, in love, cared for, happy, fulfilled, etc.  From that emotional place, do you think its possible with your current partner?

Over many years of guiding others, I’ve helped many people determine if they’re in the right relationships and helped them move forward with the best choices from a place of confidence and clarity using my Life Guidance System.  If you’d like help determining if it is best for you to stay in your relationship or to leave, contact me for a Free 30-Minute Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Clarity Session includes:

* Get completely clear about what you truly want in a romantic relationship.

* Become aware of exactly what has been holding you back from getting everything you want in a romantic relationship.

* Leave the session re-energized and inspired, with clarity about whether it’s best for you to stay or to go and strength to act on this clarity with next steps that you can take to get everything you want in your romantic relationships.

Ready for clarity about your romantic relationship and how to move forward or move on?  Contact me now and let’s get started!
Jan 10, 2017
+6 Votes
15520 PointsGold
If the relationship is abusive, then you should leave in order to keep yourself safe.

If you both are helping each other grow, then it is a good relationship.

How is your communication?
Are you both willing to commit to each other?
Do you both want the same things?
Are your goals, values, and priorities similar?
Jan 10, 2017
+4 Votes
4710 PointsGold
Hi. If your partner is not willing to make things better for you, get out
Jul 27, 2017
+2 Votes