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I'm divorced. I want to begin dating, but I never want to get married again. Is this unhealthy?

asked Apr 24, 2017
540 PointsSilver
Carol, I would say this is where you are at right now. I wonder if it’s a temporary state. Whether it is or isn’t,  it is O.K. Your choice may change. It may not. Just take life one day at a time! I am wondering if you have anger that makes you feel this way, or if it's just a practical thing. Have you worked on healing from your divorce and preparing for a new relationship? If we do not do that work, we will bring old baggage into our new relationship. I would be happy to chat with you further about it
Apr 25, 2017
+4 Votes
9340 PointsGold
Hi Carol,

I totally get where you are at. Have been there myself, once upon a time.

Here is the thing. If you are divorced and you WANT to begin dating DO IT. You can do whatever you want. Dating is fun and frustrating and fabulous and a part of a single person's world. So go for it.

And who knows, you might never meet someone who you want to marry. You might just date for the rest of your life or you might find someone who you would like to settle down with. Who knows. Either way it's OK.

Just know that how you are feeling right now is very possibly not how you will be feeling down the road. Time changes things. Meeting new people changes things. Life changes things. You may or may not feel like marrying again sometime in the future.  And either way, as long as you are being true to yourself, everything is going to be okay.

So start dating. Have fun. Live your life. See where it all takes you.

Good luck! Mitzi
Apr 26, 2017
+3 Votes
28850 PointsGold
Unhealthy according to whom? Someone who spends his/her life living for others? Do it your way. If you don't want to get married again then don't. BUT never say, "never" Leave room in your mind to change it. Just in case--stay open to the possibilities.  In the meantime,  "do you!"
Dec 18, 2018
0 Votes