Wouldn’t it be nice if there were one thing that could really make a difference in your struggling relationship? One thing that could pull you closer, that could make you laugh again and feel good together? Wouldn’t that just be amazing?
Well there IS one thing. That thing is SEX.
“Wait,” you say. “What? No way. I am not having sex with HIM.”
Yes, you can. And you should!
Here is my latest… 5 Ways Great Sex Can Save Your Relationship – Even If You Are Really Struggling.
#1 – The Connection.
Sex between two people who care about each other is about connection. Intimate non-verbal connection. In many ways, the most important kind of connection because it is purely organic.
When two people are struggling it can be difficult to connect verbally without making a mess. But the act of holding hands and kissing, of touching and pressing your bodies close, can allow connection without words. Connection that is in many ways more effective than talking.
So try it. Try the touching and the kissing and the rolling around. It just might open things up between the two of you in a life changing way.
#2 – The Orgasms.
Did you know that when you have an orgasm your body is flooded with dopamine, a chemical that makes you feel like you can take on the world? And the effects of that dopamine lasts for at least 5 hours.
Imagine how it would feel for you and your partner, freshly connected and flooded with dopamine, spending time together. Pretty great, no? Maybe it will help you remember why you fell for each other in the first place!
#3 – The Fun.
Sex is fun. It just is. And funny.
Think of all of the fumbling and nakedness and gymnastics. The rolling around, trying to fit together. Chemicals flowing freely. It’s almost impossible not to smile and laugh and be happy.
And there is no better antidote to a struggling relationship than some happy times together.
So try it. You might find yourselves smiling together. Wouldn’t that be fun?
#4 – The Make-up Sex.
So really. Is there anything better than make up sex?
Two people, emotions heightened in conflict, coming together in a powerful way. Clothes flying everywhere. Tables wiped clean of plateware. Passionate only begins to describe it.
And really, how can you stay mad at each other after such an encounter? You are reconnected, the dopamine is flying, you are laughing so hard your sides hurt and you certainly are no longer angry.
Try ending your conflicts with a little make-up sex. You might find you move past things just a little more quickly.
#5 – The Satisfaction.
This is one that I don’t even want to mention but it is a key piece of how sex keeps a relationship going strong.
Most people don’t go out looking for someone else. Normally a someone else just appears, out of the blue. And what you do when that someone else appears depends on just how satisfied you are.
Regular great sex in a relationship generally means that a couple’s sexual needs are being met. And, more often than not, their emotional needs as well because the two very often go hand in hand.
And if a couple is satisfied in their relationship there is no need to go elsewhere, even if the prospect arises.
So have lots of sex. And keep it in the relationship. Keep temptations at bay.
And there you go. My 5 Ways Great Sex Can Save Your Relationship.
I know that when relationships are struggling sex can be the last thing on your mind. The prospect of firing up with someone you can barely look at seems absurd.
But try it. Really try it. Give yourself over to the passion, the connection, the fun and the orgasms and get back in touch with how you first felt with each other.
Armed with that feeling you both can take on anything.