Are you trying to do it all, but coming up short?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by everything that you have going on in your life, and you don’t see an end to all the doing?
Maybe you have a 9-5 job, maybe you’re also a parent, a partner, maybe you’re also going to school, or transitioning to another job, and maybe you are even trying to pursue another passion in your life.
The point is, you are feeling strung out...or that all of your activities and responsibilities are pulling you in all different directions, and sometimes you just want to run into a cave and hide, because there is always so much to do!!!
Well, let me tell you, I have definitely been there before...MANY times. I have felt stretched and strung out and all over the place, and felt like, “when is this every going to end?”
But it doesn’t have to be this way...you CAN do all of these things, AND still find time for some PEACE in your life, as well as JOY. And I know it might sound like it’s not possible, but there IS a way to find BALANCE in your life, no matter how busy it is.
Are you ready for some ideas? Well...
Here are my 5 top tools for handling overwhelm...
1. ASK FOR HELP
Even if you think you can do it all yourself, you probably can, however, afterwards, you will most likely be left feeling exhausted, depleted, and possible upset (at yourself and possible everyone else around you too). When it’s all said and done, you know you have people your life that you can ask for help, and they would LOVE to help you. So don’t be shy, ask them!
2. PRACTICE THE ART OF ALLOWING
By not being attached to the outcome, you won’t get upset if something doesn’t turn out exactly the way you wanted it to or exactly how you expected it to. Things will get accomplished, but the universe might have a different idea of just how that will happen. Practice the art of allowing, and the task might get completed in an even better way that you had imagined.
3. MAKE A LIST
Make a list of all the things you want to get accomplished. Then divide your list in two. On one side of the paper, write down everything you need to get done that day. And on the second side, write down everything that can be saved for later. This is the universe side. It’s amazing to watch the universe take care of some of the things on this side of the list in ways you might have never imagined. (Thank you Abraham-Hicks for this wonderful idea, see the great read "Ask and It Is Given", by Ester and Jerry Hicks).
4. ONLY DO A FEW THINGS ON YOUR LIST EACH DAY
If you try to get everything done in one day, again you are most likely going to be left feeling exhausted, depleted, and have little time for yourself. This could leave you feeling upset, which can spiral into feeling really down and depressed. Make it a point to cross off around 3 things from your list every day. By breaking it up into smaller chucks, you are able to still feel accomplished, without feeling overwhelmed or depleted.
5. SCHEDULE DOWNTIME INTO YOUR CALENDAR
Schedule into your calendar time for yourself: for examples, to exercise, to get a massage, or even to read your book. Whatever kind of “me” time you like, you should have some “me” time each week. This is when you can recharge your batteries and gain more energy to be the best mom you can be, or partner, employee, boss, teacher, etc... Downtime and “me” time is soooo important. Make it important to yourself by scheduling it into your agenda. That way there are no excuses, and you don’t have to feel “bad” about fitting it in. You have already made it a priority. Also, as a tip, you might want to hire a babysitter, or have your partner watch your kids, during these times. Then you can really focus on yourself.
You CAN have it all. It is possible.
Anything that we imagine is possible. That’s how the universe works. If you can think it, you can create it.
Just remember to ask for help, practice the art of allowing, make a list, only do a few things on the list each day, and schedule your downtime into your calendar.
Please let me know your comments on this post and if you have any other ideas for dealing with overwhelm. I would love to hear from you!