Charles Eisenstein, a famous American writer and speaker, describes the “space between stories” as that moment in life in which the idea of who we are – or who we believe to be – until that moment suddenly falls apart. This can happen, for example, when we are diagnosed with a serious illness, or when we suffer a big loss, either the loss of a loved one or a job, or we face a divorce or separation. The situations are endless, and somehow, they make us feel that who we believed to be until that moment has collapsed, that something we used to identify with has died so we don’t know who we are anymore and what is next for us in our life.
This can be a scary place to be for many of us. Especially in a society that glorifies being busy and where we constantly identify ourselves with the idea of “do, do, do”, the fact that it is no longer possible to keep doing the things that we used to do or being the person we used to be can make us feel really vulnerable, overwhelmed and lost.
Charles Eisenstein writes: “If you are in the sacred space between stories, allow yourself to be there. It is frightening to lose the old structures of security, but you will find that even as you might lose things that were unthinkable to lose, you will be okay. There is a kind of grace that protects us in the space between stories. It is not that you won’t lose your marriage, your money, your job, or your health. In fact, it is very likely that you will lose one of these things. It is that you will discover that even having lost that, you are still okay. You will find yourself in closer contact to something much more precious, something that fires cannot burn and thieves cannot steal, something that no one can take and cannot be lost.”
I recently found myself in a moment like this in my life. The old story of who I believed to be fell apart and as I was working on building a new story, many times I felt in a limbo, in that “space between histories” where the old story was already finished but the new one was not here yet. It is very tempting to believe that the answer lies in doing more, working more, producing more so things move faster, but the fact is that the “space between stories” has a very important purpose in our life. Lisa Rankin describes it as a “gestation period”, because we are giving birth to something new so it is not possible to rush the process. The only thing to do is wait and rest, slow down and focus all our attention on ourselves to connect with who we truly are. Because it is from that place of self-awareness and inner-connection where we can start creating our new story in a more authentic and real way.
Many times, we can also perceive this process as a punishment for something wrong we could have done in the past. But nothing can be further from the truth. The “space between stories” is a moment of necessary transformation in our life. It is an invitation to be finally free and leave behind everything that is holding us back and embrace the most authentic version of ourselves. In Lisa Rankin’s words: “Rest in the sanctuary of your blown open heart, where you will know that this stripping down is not a punishment; it is an answer to a silent prayer for freedom that you may not even remember praying.”
In my experience, I can say it is one of the most beautiful moments I have experienced in my life. I have been through “spaces between stories” at least a couple of times in recent years, and even though during those moments I felt quite overwhelmed and scared, I could also remember their purpose and managed to surrender and trust. With time, I can see that it was during those moments when I have grown the most as a person, I have known myself in ways I didn’t thought it was possible and I could let go of everything that was unnecessary in my life so I could continue evolving and growing.
So, when you find yourself in a “space between stories” don’t be scared. Welcome it and fully embrace it. You are safe in this process. This is a time to be and to feel, not a time to do. Rest as much as you need and be exquisitely loving and gentle with yourself. Know that this moment has a purpose and it will pass when the time is right. In Charles Eisenstein’s words: “The challenge is to allow yourself to be in that space, to trust that the next story will emerge when the time in between has ended, and that you will recognize it.”
Have you gone through any “space between stories” in your life? Are you currently in one? Let me know in the comments below, I will love to hear your story. Also, if you know of anyone who’s going through something similar and think this blog may help, don’t hesitate to share it!
With all my love,