It would really be great if such a thing existed out there in the world. All you’d have to do is get out your trusty credit card, put in your number and the perfect questions to tell you each whether you were compatible would pop right up. And off into the sunset you’d go–either together or apart, depending on the results of the test.
That might have worked when you were 14. Some teen magazine created the test. You took it and found out yes or no.
Or you might count on the info you get from your local or online astrologer. Maybe they do know but truly, how to know if he’s the one or not is not that hard. The information is right there inside you.
Every time he makes you happy, he’s the one. Every time he does something that upsets you, hurts your feelings, or makes you feel small he is not the one. If he continues to hurt your feelings and make you feel small, he is not the one.
Now I am not so naïve as to think it’s that simple. But it could be. Here’s what you have to do to make it that simple. You have to find a way to listen to, discern and trust the emotional feedback your body gives you. You know what I’m talking about although you may not realize it.
- Next time you get angry or feel sad, notice what’s going on in your body.
- Next time you are wildly happy, notice that and what it feels like in your body.
- What are you feeling right now? Are you having what you’d call a good day? Or are you having what you’d call a bad day?
It isn’t the events that usually make the day good or bad. It is your emotional reaction to the events that make you interpret it as good or bad. When you start looking internally, you will know the information you are looking for when it comes to the person you are trying to know your compatibility with.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “It’s an inside job.” It is an inside job because human beings have a full range of biochemicals that flow throughout our bodies and let us know if we are happy or sad, angry or joyful. So that’s where the compatibility test answers are – inside you.
But you searched and found this article because you aren’t clear - which means something is blocking you from knowing your own truth. These are the kinds of things that block women from knowing:
- They have a hard time understanding their emotions.
- They started a physical relationship before they really knew the guy and become confused because their hormones and emotional vulnerability is totally triggered. This is not a moral judgment but rather a reality for women.
- They are carrying a lot of emotional baggage from the past and it is confusing the current situation.
- They have low self-esteem and want to hold onto anyone as long as someone will stay with them.
So if you want to know if he is the one, you have to allow yourself to feel your feelings and acknowledge what they are telling you. If all this idea does is leave you feeling confused, then I can promise you, you need some help in getting back in touch with your feelings.
=> Seek help before you make any decisions about who is “the one”.