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What do the Alone do at Christmas? Or Afterwards? posted Jan 25, 2018

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Christmas does not have to be a pitiful time for those of us who are alone (for whatever reason). The assumption of this article is that you are alone and you’d rather not be. Because if you are by yourself and cool with it then you are good. However, for some of us being alone at any time of the year is not cool.

So, if you’ve been reading any of my writings then you know that I do my best to avoid offering the usual advice you’d get in one of these “advice-giving” narratives. This time is no different. I think that if you are alone then most likely you need to take the time to have a long-overdue conversation with yourself. In other words, it’s time to reflect—sort of like being in time-out. Your--new-school--parent would put you in a corner and say “Now you just think about what you …” Of course, we all know what old-school parents do. Right, and call it a day .

So, you are with yourself and you wondering how to engage yourself in a profitable conversation. Here I go with the questions to ask yourself:

1)    What is my struggle with being alone?

2)    Why might I need to be alone at this time in my life?

3)    Am I happy/content with myself?

4)    Would I be the kind of company that some would want to keep?

5)    Am I avoiding anything or anyone?

6)    Do I need to see a therapist/counselor?

7)    What is my biggest concern with myself?

8)    What is my purpose—my passion?

9)    Am I living my passion, my purpose?’

10)    How might my life be different if I were living my passion and purpose?

I ended the questions with 10 because there are other questions that you can ask yourself that I can’t ask because I don’t know you as well as you know you. I also asked the last question “How might my life be different… passion and purpose?’ because I’ve found that people who are doing “their thing” tend to be at peace with themselves, regardless of the constellation of their family. Also, people who are actively seeking their purpose are also at home with themselves, alone or not.

So, examine your life as an alone person and ask yourself the questions that will lead to peace. For none of the questions may fit your life. I asked them just to get you on the path of self-examination. The question this article poses, “What do the Alone do at Christmas?” was ultimately intended to suggest that with one is at home at peace with oneself, and fulfilled in one’s life-- being alone is not a condition but a choice.

Christmas does not have to be a pitiful time for those of us who are alone (for whatever reason). The assumption of this article is that you are alone and you’d rather not be. Because if you are by yourself and cool with it then you are good. However, for some of us being alone at any time of the year is not cool.

So, if you’ve been reading any of my writings then you know that I do my best to avoid offering the usual advice you’d get in one of these “advice-giving” narratives. This time is no different. I think that if you are alone then most likely you need to take the time to have a long-overdue conversation with yourself. In other words, it’s time to reflect—sort of like being in time-out. Your--new-school--parent would put you in a corner and say “Now you just think about what you …” Of course, we all know what old-school parents do. Right, and call it a day .

So, you are with yourself and you wondering how to engage yourself in a profitable conversation. Here I go with the questions to ask yourself:

1)    What is my struggle with being alone?

2)    Why might I need to be alone at this time in my life?

3)    Am I happy/content with myself?

4)    Would I be the kind of company that some would want to keep?

5)    Am I avoiding anything or anyone?

6)    Do I need to see a therapist/counselor?

7)    What is my biggest concern with myself?

8)    What is my purpose—my passion?

9)    Am I living my passion, my purpose?’

10)    How might my life be different if I were living my passion and purpose?

I ended the questions with 10 because there are other questions that you can ask yourself that I can’t ask because I don’t know you as well as you know you. I also asked the last question “How might my life be different… passion and purpose?’ because I’ve found that people who are doing “their thing” tend to be at peace with themselves, regardless of the constellation of their family. Also, people who are actively seeking their purpose are also at home with themselves, alone or not.

So, examine your life as an alone person and ask yourself the questions that will lead to peace. For none of the questions may fit your life. I asked them just to get you on the path of self-examination. The question this article poses, “What do the Alone do at Christmas?” was ultimately intended to suggest that with one is at home at peace with oneself, and fulfilled in one’s life-- being alone is not a condition but a choice.

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