Emotions are universal, and most of the time we go through life without thinking about them. However, when we experience feelings of discomfort, our souls become uneasy, and sadness, stress, anger, fear, grief, loss, and relationship problems can begin to complicate life.
So how can we begin to deal with feelings of discomfort without complicating our lives with cycles of unhealthy emotions? It starts with us. The more you understand yourself by exploring why and what makes you feel uncomfortable, the better equipped you are in the future to break the cycle of emotional distress. "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” Albert Einstein
In the previous 25 years, I noticed two areas that keep people stuck in emotional turmoil. First, there is a total disconnect from the reality or consciousness of their emotions. Second, an unwillingness to deal with uncomfortable feelings. These two problem areas prompted the development of Mama Sue’s easy four-step approach.
Mama Sue’s four-step approach uses the acronym S.T.A.R, so it is easy to remember and refer back to for everyday use.
STOP relax, and take time to recognize and understand your emotions, think about what caused the feelings and ask yourself why.
TRANSFORM the way you think once you understand what caused your feelings. Take your new knowledge and develop behavioral methods to promote favorable emotions when faced with the same situations in the future.
AWAKEN and enlighten yourselves to the fact that painful feelings are a part of the human experience, and all humans must process emotions without prevention to begin a new journey or phase in their lives.
REFORM must take place now that you are awake. Out with the old behaviors of refusing to recognize and understand emotional distress and merely reacting to it, and in with the new ideas of identifying and understanding your emotions, transforming your thinking, and implementing well-developed behavioral methods to foster healthy feelings in the future.
Apply S.T.A.R when you are feeling fear, anger, sadness, stress, grief, loss, and a need to figure out your relationship concerns. Please call the advice line and ask Mama Sue if you need further assistance.