There are four different relationship attachment styles. Could one or multiple relationship attachments styles be affecting your love life? Once you understand your attachment style, you’ll learn the answers to the many questions you have about your relationship.
The Attachment Deception
The four main attachment styles are identified as the following:
In-depth learning of each attachment style and the turmoil they cause in relationships, can help you understand why you’re behaving the way you are and then correct those behaviors to create the loving relationship you desire. Over recent years, I’ve witnessed people that I care about fall in and out of love because they were searching for certain needs to be fulfilled, but they didn’t communicate those needs with their partner. They took no accountability for their actions, which put the full weight of creating a successful relationship on their partner.
But relationships are a two-way street, and the keys to their success are knowing your attachment style. Why your partner acts the way he or she does is all about their attachment style.
When you learn about your attachment style, you’ll understand what you need and how to get it. Also, you’ll understand more about your partner and the attachments they are connected to. Your attachment style may be the key to understanding your perspective on how relationships should work.
Certain attachments can create misery that leads to insecurity. Are you constantly putting your desires before your partner’s needs? And are you expecting someone else to make you happy instead of realizing that happiness comes from within? Is your partner distancing him or herself from you? We all want happy, healthy relationships, but are you willing to take responsibility for unhealthy attachments you’ve created and make the necessary changes that will foster an unselfish and loving relationship? If your relationship is falling apart and you’re not sure why, you’re not alone. More people are starting to identify the negative attachments that were developed during childhood and the impact they’re having during adulthood.