There are many people that are qualified to be in your life, but only one person that’s certified to love you for life. When dating, watch who you allow at your front door, you must be careful not to attract the commitment-phobe. Keep your eyes open to people who solely want a physical connection. Be aware of who you’re dealing with before taking it to the next level, some people only want your heart. If you become uncomfortable in your relationship, that’s a red flag that something is wrong. Don’t put off the signals you’re picking up because you want a relationship like your friends. Don’t putt of the signals because you’re afraid of being alone. Although people with commit phobia don’t want to be in a long-term relationship, they still do their best to make it hard for you to break away.
Have you noticed any red flags in your relationship? Do you know what to look for? Do you and your significant other break up often? Many think they’re in love, but they’ve failed to notice the obvious signals that their partner isn’t in it for the long haul.
You may be wondering what red flags I’m talking about. Below is a list of ways your partner sends signals that they don’t want to commit:
- Attempts to make you jealous.
- Become more critical of you when your relationship is no longer new because they feel relaxed.
- Constantly wants you to do things for them but complains when you ask for their help.
- Enjoys being around your friends more than spending time with you, and at times they act more like a friend than a lover.
- Keeps track of your spending habits. Control freak!
- Overly affected by past relationships.
- Stories they tell are always changing.
When a commitment-phobe feels ready to exit a relationship, they begin to pick arguments, so you call it quits. They need an effortless way out, and your constant nagging about their behavior and lack of commitment is just what they’re looking for. A commitment-phobe isn’t going to put effort into a relationship they don’t plan to stay in.
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