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Think about where you were 5 years ago. Seems like only yesterday, right? Are you where you’d thought you’d be 5 years later, when you looked forward back then? Are you leading the life you envisioned? Do you have the income, lifestyle, freedom, health, relationships, poise and skills you thought you would have by now? Guess What? Now you get another chance to look forward to the next 5 years Over the next 5 years you can accomplish what people spend a lifetime ...

How many times have you been in a conversation with someone and they were talking about some scenario where they didn’t have a choice but to do something? How many times have you thought to yourself that you did not have a choice but to do an action you did not want to do? The problem with this type of thinking is that you do not realize the choices you have, and the choices you are making. We make a lot of choices during the day and a lot of these choices we are not conscious of. Some of ...

How to manifest Men, Money & meaningful Careers What is manifesting? Manifesting is using the law of attraction to will things into your life. The law of attraction is like attracts like. As you prefer friends that are similar to you in essence. The law of attraction works in a similar fashion. We are always manifesting whether we realize it or not. Both the good and the bad. Ever notice how when you decide you want to take a vacation to Hawaii, all the sudden you start ...

 It all starts with passions and those things that make us feel alive. Our longings, our discontent, learning more about who we are, and our purpose in life. Precious moments, dreams or goals that make us want to jump out of bed every morning. It can be a sudden passion that leads you to the next wish fulfilled. Either way, these passions give us our life purpose. Are you living life as your true, authentic self? Whoa! That is a loaded affirmation. What does that even mean? Well, ...

Many of my friends are doctors. A few of them have been experts on TV and the radio, some are scholars, real estate investors, business owners, professors, parents, therapists. Some are married or in committed relationships that they passionately fight for every day. They are bosses in every sense of the word. One walked on her campus, literally got a new job offered to her, and was in awe when she walked out. I, however, was not surprised. No haterade in my BPA-free water bottle, I was ...

For some reason there are two ways to have emotions, very big or none. Society tells us to keep calm and love all and then to hate with a passion. Why is there no in between? How about today we start to listen with our heads and feel with a mix of kindness and caring. There are many days that feeling not happy or not sad just don’t feel right and we can change that. There is a range of appropriate happy and just enough sadness to be able to express yourself in the way that you want. It ...

One of the most difficult things to talk about in therapy that I've noticed with clients and myself is the subject of shame.  We either try to avoid it or cover it up with another emotion like anger, resentment, or sadness.  If we go back to our earlier years in childhood, shame is the part of us that was rejected by our caregivers when we were children.  It’s the part of us that we buried, covered up, and hid in order to be loved by our caregivers.  “Wipe that ...

As I work in the field today and see many clients with various types of disabilities who want to be treated as close to normal as possible and who always try to use appropriate or current terminology in their daily struggle for independence, it always surprises and shocks me when I run across an individual who tries to be a martyr. They struggle to overcome their disability to the point that they get into a situation where they need to have that disability documented and can’t have it ...

When she’s 9 years old, Rose Edelstein, the protagonist in Aimee Bender’s The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake, can’t wait to bite into her mom’s made-from-scratch lemon-chocolate cake. It looks absolutely delicious. But when she does, instead of savoring the sugary, spongy sweetness, she’s shocked to taste hunger, hollowness, and absence. Rose discovers that she can taste people’s emotions through their food, and her outwardly cheerful mother is anything but cheerful on the ...

Imagine your best friend comes to you deeply distraught—her father died six months ago, and her mother’s health is rapidly deteriorating. Over the past year, she has been consumed with managing care and legal issues, making funeral preparations, and grieving. Naturally, some things at work and at home have slipped through the cracks here and there. She comes to you feeling sad, helpless to stop her mother’s decline, and angry at herself that she just can’t seem to get it ...